Wednesday, November 19, 2008
So... how do you tell someone in a dating context that you have MS? It's not as if it tends to work itself fluidly into casual conversation ("Sure is cold today... Hey, have I ever told you about my nerve disease?"), but to frame it as a pronouncement ("I have something to tell you: should this relationship progress to the point of marriage, there's a chance that shortly thereafter I will become a blind and incontinent burdensome shell of my former self. Also, I snore.") lends it an air of drama that it doesn't really warrant. A pronouncement seems to demand something from the recipient; or worse, implies that you've reached some gravid point of reckoning in the relationship, whereas maybe he just thought you were hanging out. Timing here seems crucial; sensitivity to context and social cues, a must. Which is why I suspect I'm going to screw it up spectacularly.
Posted by Katie at 11:08 AM